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Die Trying

  "...it's better to die trying (to live your bravest dream) than to live sleeping"   Robin Sharma As I enter the last year of my 40s, "I shall die trying" has become my new mantra. Recently, I have said it to others and I have spoken it many, many times to myself since mid-last year. It started as a way for me to remind myself to not give up, to be patient and not let what appears to be no progress plus the global pandemic bring me down. I use it as a much needed reminder in light of the fact that my biggest and bravest dream and business goal has not even begun. It's my own motivation and inspiration pep talk and way to have faith (continue to believe) that I will someday build the next "Starbucks level mega, global business". It's so interesting how soothing this statement (my new mantra) can be. Probably, because it sums me up pretty well, I am a fighter, I am strong, I don't give up and I shall never rest until it is accomplished or I
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Adjusting Our Sails

  "This is not a time to stop sailing, it's just a time to adjust our sails" Jacob Glass At the end of 2019, I had intended for 2020 to be one of the best years of my life and to my complete surprise it has been a very good year indeed. The best year of my life? Not the best year of my life but definitely one of the best years at least in the last 5-7 years. For those of you for whom 2020 was by far the worst year of your life as a result of the negative impact from the Pandemic or due to other factors, I am truly sorry. Having gone through two worst years of my life (2013 and 2018), I know how painful and at times disheartening (better word might be hopeless) some days can feel. I have been reflecting on why 2020 turned out to be such a good year for me and well I wish I could say that I orchestrated all of it very consciously but I'd be lying. No, the truth is COVID is mostly responsible. You see, right around April and May of 2020, like many of us, I realized that

Improve or Play?

“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” ― E. B. White If ever there was a quote that I can 100% relate to, it is this one. Actually, I have a long list of quotes that just hit me in the gut with the truth they speak (to me) but I do love this one from Charlotte’s Web author E.B. White. I have noticed that I have always had this battle going on in my life, since age 18 when I decided to be a professional social worker. “Work hard, play hard” was another way that I lived this quote and all through my teenage year to early thirties, I did just that. As the years have gone by I have realized that my desire to improve the world and play has not diminished, try as I may. And believe me I have tried not to care about improving anything but myself. But my compassionate heart (sometimes I think “Yeah thanks Mom” in a sarcastic way) and the “rescuer” in me always seems to rem

Don't Believe Your Thoughts

  "It is a discerning and intelligent mind that can entertain thoughts without believing them."   Peter Crone As a result of COVID-19, like so many others, I placed my "Edutainment" (education and entertainment) business plans on pause as 90% of it involved social events and gatherings. In August of this year, I returned to a field, that I thought I had left behind several years ago. I returned to the field of psychotherapy, mental health now called behavioral health. I work from home a few days a week providing therapy/counseling via telehealth. I have been so fortunate to not only find a source of income during this pandemic but more importantly for me, fortunate to find a way to be home with my teen son as we navigate this new distance learning/social distancing environment. My son however does not see it quite the way I do. He asked me the other day when I finally gave up my office space and moved all my office furniture home "Are you always going to be wor

Our Dead

  "Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them"  George Eliot I've wondered why, as an adult, I have had a comfort level around death that most people don't. I used to think it was because I hadn't really experienced a significant loss. But I have experienced two now and still feel that my acceptance of death as part of life, is a bit out of the norm. Perhaps my comfort with death began when I accompanied my Mom several times as a young adult to Mexico to attend her siblings funerals. I found the velorio (wake) and novenario (9 days of prayer for the deceased) both fascinating and beautiful. To see loved ones gather around the body, supporting the surviving family members, at the deceased's home to cry, to reminisce, to laugh, to eat, drink and cry all over again and often wail in the presence of others was so meaningful.  When my Mom died in 2011, unlike some of my siblings, for me, her death was as natural as our births and the acceptance of

Possibilities

"You are only scared because you can only measure what you stand to lose, you cannot see (measure) what you will gain". Kyle Cease I love Kyle Cease's work. I learned about him a few years ago and have been a fan ever since. When I heard him say these words in an interview, it resonated big time . He was talking about the fear that most of us experience when contemplating making a big change or important decision in our lives. He states and I would agree, that most often people will not make the needed change because they cannot see the possibilities that lie in the future, we can only see and feel what we stand to lose or miss out on. Even when staying in the same place is costing us our health (both physical and mental) energy, time, relationships, etc... No surprise, we often stay in our comfort zone never really knowing what the possibilities for our life could have been for fear of making the wrong decision and losing what we already know and are comfortable with.  

Price of Admission

  "Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life" Susan David  "Living a meaningful life", as I utter those words they sound so simple and yet, the reality is that for most of us, living a meaningful life can be complex and thus gets "complicated". I believe it gets complex because we are all so unique and what we consider "meaningful" can be quite the opposite for someone else. A Google search of "a meaningful life" can be mind boggling and overwhelming, so many perspectives and ideas about what gives life meaning. However, what I believe is true for all of us, is what Susan David, PhD, is referring to in the quote above (full quote below). We will all experience discomfort in our quest to finding purpose, meaning and fulfillment in our lives, that's just inherent in growth and in life. My only wish and part of the vision I have for what I would like to contribute before I exit this life (what gives my life meaning), i