"Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them" George Eliot I've wondered why, as an adult, I have had a comfort level around death that most people don't. I used to think it was because I hadn't really experienced a significant loss. But I have experienced two now and still feel that my acceptance of death as part of life, is a bit out of the norm. Perhaps my comfort with death began when I accompanied my Mom several times as a young adult to Mexico to attend her siblings funerals. I found the velorio (wake) and novenario (9 days of prayer for the deceased) both fascinating and beautiful. To see loved ones gather around the body, supporting the surviving family members, at the deceased's home to cry, to reminisce, to laugh, to eat, drink and cry all over again and often wail in the presence of others was so meaningful. When my Mom died in 2011, unlike some of my siblings, for me, her death was as natural as our births and the acceptance of
"You are only scared because you can only measure what you stand to lose, you cannot see (measure) what you will gain". Kyle Cease I love Kyle Cease's work. I learned about him a few years ago and have been a fan ever since. When I heard him say these words in an interview, it resonated big time . He was talking about the fear that most of us experience when contemplating making a big change or important decision in our lives. He states and I would agree, that most often people will not make the needed change because they cannot see the possibilities that lie in the future, we can only see and feel what we stand to lose or miss out on. Even when staying in the same place is costing us our health (both physical and mental) energy, time, relationships, etc... No surprise, we often stay in our comfort zone never really knowing what the possibilities for our life could have been for fear of making the wrong decision and losing what we already know and are comfortable with.