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Our Dead

  "Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them"  George Eliot I've wondered why, as an adult, I have had a comfort level around death that most people don't. I used to think it was because I hadn't really experienced a significant loss. But I have experienced two now and still feel that my acceptance of death as part of life, is a bit out of the norm. Perhaps my comfort with death began when I accompanied my Mom several times as a young adult to Mexico to attend her siblings funerals. I found the velorio (wake) and novenario (9 days of prayer for the deceased) both fascinating and beautiful. To see loved ones gather around the body, supporting the surviving family members, at the deceased's home to cry, to reminisce, to laugh, to eat, drink and cry all over again and often wail in the presence of others was so meaningful.  When my Mom died in 2011, unlike some of my siblings, for me, her death was as natural as our births and the acceptance of
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Possibilities

"You are only scared because you can only measure what you stand to lose, you cannot see (measure) what you will gain". Kyle Cease I love Kyle Cease's work. I learned about him a few years ago and have been a fan ever since. When I heard him say these words in an interview, it resonated big time . He was talking about the fear that most of us experience when contemplating making a big change or important decision in our lives. He states and I would agree, that most often people will not make the needed change because they cannot see the possibilities that lie in the future, we can only see and feel what we stand to lose or miss out on. Even when staying in the same place is costing us our health (both physical and mental) energy, time, relationships, etc... No surprise, we often stay in our comfort zone never really knowing what the possibilities for our life could have been for fear of making the wrong decision and losing what we already know and are comfortable with.  

Price of Admission

  "Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life" Susan David  "Living a meaningful life", as I utter those words they sound so simple and yet, the reality is that for most of us, living a meaningful life can be complex and thus gets "complicated". I believe it gets complex because we are all so unique and what we consider "meaningful" can be quite the opposite for someone else. A Google search of "a meaningful life" can be mind boggling and overwhelming, so many perspectives and ideas about what gives life meaning. However, what I believe is true for all of us, is what Susan David, PhD, is referring to in the quote above (full quote below). We will all experience discomfort in our quest to finding purpose, meaning and fulfillment in our lives, that's just inherent in growth and in life. My only wish and part of the vision I have for what I would like to contribute before I exit this life (what gives my life meaning), i

No Deadlines

"Dreams don't have deadlines," LL Cool J A few years ago, I heard this quote during a lecture by Jacob Glass, one of my favorite teachers who I have listened to and learned so much from since 2014. When Jacob shared this quote, I wrote it down immediately and I remember thinking "thank you Jacob I needed to hear this". In fact, hearing that quote was a bit of a turning point in my path to achieving my personal business goals. I physically felt lighter and freer after that lecture and memorizing the quote.  The quote itself is wonderful, thank you LL. And although, I don't remember all the details of the lecture (I have probably listened to over a hundred lectures at this point), in his usual way Jacob Glass, helped me release a sense of urgency and pressure that I was holding over myself to be "further ahead" with my respect to my business goals and dreams. I also remember my good friend of over 20 years joined me for the lecture as we were also ce

Self-Discipline

"Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don't want to do it"  I have had this quote in my Vision Journal (by the way, this is a great exercise similar to a Vision Board from Jack Canfield's book The Success Principles), and every time I see it, which is pretty often, I get re-inspired. I get inspired to not give up on my dreams and goals and just as importantly to re-commit every day if I have to, to my own self-discipline. I feel, on a gut level, that it is my self-discipline that will ultimately lead the way to making my dreams and goals a reality. Like most people and despite all the personal growth work I've done, I sometimes do get disillusioned and doubt creeps in, especially with respect to achieving my "big vision" goals. There are different techniques I use to stop focusing and putting energy on thoughts that don't serve me such as "You should be farther along then you are...will it ever happen?...why does it feel lik

Broken Pride

Don't count the number of times you have been knocked down, get attached to the number of times you get up" -Lisa Nichols I realized not too long ago that my pride has been broken for years. It broke for the first time at the end of 2013 when my husband and I failed at our first business attempt and ended up filing for bankruptcy. It finally shattered to pieces when my son, Andrew took his life in May of 2018. A Google search on pride defines it as " a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired".  Before 2013, I would say I had a pretty healthy sense of pride for what I had accomplished in my life, for having worked hard, treated people well and doing what I felt were the "right things" for my life. I had been dedicated to the service of others since age 18 through my choice of career (social

The 5am Club

"All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and so gorgeous at the end." Robin Sharma Thanksgiving weekend 2019, I finally bought Robin Sharma's book The 5am Club. I had the book on my reading list for about a year. I had heard Robin Sharma on a YouTube video and had been inspired to recommit to getting up at 5am. Although, I am not a morning person by nature and in fact, I am more of a night owl, I have gone through two periods in my life where getting up at 5 am has made a significant and positive difference in my life and I just knew that buying and reading the book would help motivate me to get up at 5 am consistently, not sporadically as I have been doing for the past few years.  In 2003 I gained over 40 pounds during my pregnancy. A year after my son was born I resolved to lose the weight I had gained. I had a 7 am to 3:30 pm schedule at the time, that meant I had to get up at 4:30 am every morning to work out before work. In less than a year I lost the we