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Adjusting Our Sails

 

"This is not a time to stop sailing, it's just a time to adjust our sails" Jacob Glass

At the end of 2019, I had intended for 2020 to be one of the best years of my life and to my complete surprise it has been a very good year indeed. The best year of my life? Not the best year of my life but definitely one of the best years at least in the last 5-7 years. For those of you for whom 2020 was by far the worst year of your life as a result of the negative impact from the Pandemic or due to other factors, I am truly sorry. Having gone through two worst years of my life (2013 and 2018), I know how painful and at times disheartening (better word might be hopeless) some days can feel.

I have been reflecting on why 2020 turned out to be such a good year for me and well I wish I could say that I orchestrated all of it very consciously but I'd be lying. No, the truth is COVID is mostly responsible. You see, right around April and May of 2020, like many of us, I realized that my goals for my business plans (events/entertainment), were definitely not going to be happening due to the pandemic and I adjusted my sails. Adjusting my sails was not something I wanted to do, it was something I was forced to do, thank you "Rona" aka Coronavirus/COVID-19. What I do take some responsibility for is how quickly I adjusted to my new direction. Well, I really did not have much choice but it was a surprisingly peaceful, calm, mental acceptance of realizing that I had to change course and at the same time accepting that it didn't mean I was giving up on my business goals. By August of 2020 my sail adjustment had led to doing mental health work again (I thought I had effectively hung up my therapist hat) and focusing more on formalizing a mental health curriculum I had put aside a few years back.

Upon reflection, thanks to Rona, 2020 is the year that I finally experienced true "surrender" from a spiritual/metaphysical perspective and I think this is what made 2020 a very good year indeed. Surrender for me is having a deep desire for something (my business goals), having unwavering faith that it will come to pass but detaching totally and completely as to when and how it will happen. Detaching from the "when" and "how" has always been the part I struggled with the most. I'm a "doer" and detaching (which can mistakenly be interpreted as doing nothing or not doing enough) does not come easily to people like me. But good ole' Rona helped me with that part, there was nothing I could do literally no public gatherings meant no "doing" towards my business goals. 

Ironically and the most amazing part of adjusting my sails and surrendering has been the many coincidences (synchronicities) and blessings that came into my life last year and continue coming in. I know they are bringing me right back to achieving my goals/dreams or perhaps something even greater or better. I just don't know when or how but I feel the certainty of it and just as importantly I am enjoying the journey, the process. 

Adjusting our sails does not mean we have to stop sailing, so true...thank you Jacob Glass (one of my favorite spiritual teachers). This quote from Sanaya Roman is on my vision board and always helps me to remember to not "fight" or "resist" the changes and detours of life. I hope it does the same for you.

"Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be"

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